How To Take Care of the Babiiiesss

*Parenting is something that takes skills and time to be good at. You can't just wake up one day and be a good mom or dad. I think people however forget this and expect parents to be perfect right away and forever. Parenting is half based on instinct and the other half common sense. I think you should parent however works most efficiently with your child. There is no one way perfect parenting technique.
*For a child it is very important to also be involved in social development. To achieve this, the baby must have kids his/her own age to play with, older kids who can teach it things, and parents or older people to watch over these social arrangements. It should only be with people you trust and really know if your leaving your child alone with them.
*The guidelines for parenting should be surrounded around loving obedience, humor, respect (don't belittle your children), and patience. Of course every situation is differrent but they should somehow relate to this.

Interviews:

Number 1
Yazmin: How many siblings do you have?
Binta: 3.

Yazmin: And what would you say your relationship is like?
Binta: Really close. We eat each other's buttholes.

Yazmin: Do you think loving your sisters is mandatory?
Binta: I don't think you really have to love anyone in your family but you have to have mutual respect. You do grow up loving them however.

Yazmin: What do you think about sibling rivalry?
Binta: Happens a lot more than people realize. A lot of sibling rivalry because mom compared me to her. Resented her for the way mom idolized her.

Binta has a close relationship to her siblings now but when she was younger she wasn't as close to them because her mother would compare them. Loving her sisters doesn't feel mandatory to her because she loves them regardless. The mutual respect she talks about is understanding that even though your family and you should love each other it doesn't mean you have to always see eye to eye. This kind of makes my thesis right because she also says you grow up loving them which is why people think you HAVE to love them.

Number 2
Yazmin: Are you the eldest out of your siblings?
Jace: Yes. I have 1 younger brother.

Yazmin: Do you think your brother looks up to you?
Jace: Yes because I am a good role model. Girls like me, good at sports, smart, I fucks wit Yazmin, and she fucks wit me.

Yazmin: Do you think your brother looks up to you because he has no one else?
Jace: No

Yazmin: Do you think its mandatory to love your siblings?
Jace: It's not mandatory but its natural. It's unavoidable.

Being the eldest you usually have the responsibility of being the role model. By being the role model your siblings automatically look up to you which makes them love you. Jace says that loving your siblings is not mandatory its only natural. This goes back to the same thing Binta says that you grow up loving them.

Number 3
Yazmin: Do you think its mandatory to love your family?
Jacara: Yes.

Yazmin: Why?
Jacara: Because logic tells you that those are the first people in your life and they tell you that those are the ones that are going to be around.

Yazmin: What do you think about sibling rivalry?
Jacara: I'm older than you so I win.

Jacara hits my thesis right on the dot by saying that your family tells you that they are the only ones that are going to be there for you. I think they trick you into thinking this because I have friends who have been there for me more often then my family. By making you think this thy make you believe you have to love them because they are the only ones you can depend on.

Number 4
Yazmin: How do you feel about being a lonely child?
Katherine: I'm glad to be an only child.

Yazmin: What do you think about those stories of siblings who don't talk to one another?
Katherine: I think its sad because you have a blood connection with each other and it doesn't seem to work out. Like what do you when you can't relate to your own family? Its easier for my mom to just focus on me.

Yazmin: Do you think its mandatory to love your family?
Katherine: I think it is.

Yazmin: Do you think that's because society looks at you bad if you don't love them?
Katherine: Yes.

Being an only child Katherine still understands the connection between siblings and thinks it is upsetting when they do not get along. She also agrees that loving family members is mandatory because if not society looks down on you.

Question:
Do you think loving your family is mandatory?

Familia

Question
Is it mandatory to love your family?

Research
McEntire, Tereasa. "Why Families Should Eat Dinner Together." families.com August 25, 2006: 1. Web. 15 May 2010. .

Families that eat together usually do more because its mandatory not because they want too. This is a magazine article for parenting advice. The author discusses why you should eat dinner together and some reasons why people dn't. Something interesting I read was that she said "children get older and the number of activities they are involved in increases the meals eaten as a family decrease". I thought this was extremely interesting to look at it this way. This is true of course. I know if I come home later than 7, my family usually eats without me.

"Sibling Rivalry." Wikipedia. N.p., May 1, 2010. Web. 15 May 2010. .

This is just about sibling rivalry and describing what it is. They say siblings are usually closer to each other than their parents. Just wanted to check this out before googling more on sibling rivalry.

Ward, Bill. "When to stay together for the children--or not." StarTribune.com February 28, 2010: 1. Web. 15 May 2010. .

This article uses a very familiar saying as an intrduction just tweeked a tad. "Take one for the teens." This caught my attention almost immediately. It says that parents who are "low conflict" whatever that means are advised to stay together for the kids. This to me is very odd because if you are unhappy its not good for anyone in the situation. It also says that kids from divorced parents are 50% more likely to get a divorce than others. That's VERY high.

Vanderlinden, C.M. "How to love your family--even if you don't like them." Hubpages. N.p., n.d. Web. 15 May 2010. .

This website is funny and can help you if you don't like someone in your family. It tells you way to overcome that feeling of not liking them and stuff.

P.S. This is really bad. I think I need to look this stuff up in books because I couldn't find anything like percentages and stuff of what I wanted.

Bullshit Survey

ENFP - "Journalist". Uncanny sense of the motivations of others. Life is an exciting drama. 8.1% of total population.

Free Jung Personality Test (similar to Myers-Briggs/MBTI)

This is not me at all. I don't think this test is accurate. Life is an "exciting drama" for everyone not just me. The results were not useful at all.

Ayoo

Taking that survey was a little weird. The questions were normal but the fact that we had to take it for a class was what made it so weird. Then again Andys class has never been normal. Even though surveys are meant to be random at first I was still trying to monitor what I wrote because again it was for a class. But then I just changed my mind and wrote what I really thought.

The results are actually pretty funny and not that surprising except for some. It seems to me that people took it very seriously.

That other survey is different because it's professionally done and the real statistics. Which is kind of scary. Anywho they did New York City as a whole. We only have SOF students and what we do. And maybe some students like I did at first didn't answer the questions honestly. These numbers are legit.

You + Me = Us In Some Sort Of Relationship

Human relationships vary. They come in different attitudes, forms, and sizes. They can be emotional, physical, or mandatory. Either way there is relationships between almost all humans that come in contact with each other on normal basis. Whether its the guy you see in the subway on your way to school everyday or your mom. Relationships are all different based on the specific people but they have the same basic rules (although not all of them may follow them). There is the rule of communication (eye contact counts), respect (again not all follow this rule), understanding of relationship (can be misunderstood), and overall the need for humans to talk, vent, pleasure, and love.

Family relationships
In my opinion family relationships are all mandatory. In most cases people tend to not mind that there family relationships are mandatory because they have good family relationships but there are those cases where even if you go far away from them and vow to never see them again there is a relationship between you. Between families, relationships can at times be strained because people may not see eye to eye on a situation but close families can always overcome this dispute and move on. Communication in a family can be tough and there is usually one person who makes mostly all the decisions even though parents try to act like its a joint decision. There also must be respect in a family although rarely do people give each other the respect they deserve. Understanding the relationship should be a given (though people have been known to become confused). If its your mother, brother, sister, father, uncle, aunt, grandpa, granddaughter, second cousin I don't care you should NOT be having sex with them. Now that I got that out I think that while people have families to satisfy their need to love and stuff, I also think that people have families because what else is there to do? Once you finished college and have got a good job, what do you do on your spare time? The answer is you make babies duhhhhhh.

Student/teacher relationships
This one is a very delicate and tedious one. Both parties have to be willing to work together in order to achieve anything. While it is mandatory it can also be very rewarding and helpful. There are teachers who could serve as mentors and do really care about the students. Communication is very important in this relationship so that both parties can get through to each other. Respect is also key because no teacher is going to help you if they think you don't respect them because they are suppose to be superior to us. Understanding of relationship is also very important because teacher/student relationships are inappropriate. The need for humans to talk is fulfilled when teachers blab about their lessons for the whole clas period (sound familiar Andy?). Good teachers can also be loved by their student because they really helped them during the time they knew them.

Work relationships
Work relationships should be formal and polite but not taken outside of "the office". (I'm speaking from first hand experience). Though you may get along with one or two coworkers very well you should try your best to keep it seperate from your personal life. This is because if things go bad in a work relationship that you took out of work it can affect where you work. Communication is also important especially when your working together with a coworker or boss. One miscommunication can really hurt whatever project or task your working on.

Consumer/producer relationships
The consumer's job is to buy, buy, buy while the producer's job is to make, make, make. They have an indirect relationship because the producer makes based off of what the consumer's usually buy they just try to improve it everytime they make it. Consumers show producers what they are interested in by what they buy and what they do not.

Stranger relationships
STRANGER DANGERRRRRR!!!!!! Strangers can be scary but they are also the people we talk to at the supermarket or while getting lunch. Let's face it, there are tons of people we don't know everywhere. Our relationships with them are mostly formal and on a mandatory basis.

Some relationships but not all. That would take forever and a day.