How To Take Care of the Babiiiesss

*Parenting is something that takes skills and time to be good at. You can't just wake up one day and be a good mom or dad. I think people however forget this and expect parents to be perfect right away and forever. Parenting is half based on instinct and the other half common sense. I think you should parent however works most efficiently with your child. There is no one way perfect parenting technique.
*For a child it is very important to also be involved in social development. To achieve this, the baby must have kids his/her own age to play with, older kids who can teach it things, and parents or older people to watch over these social arrangements. It should only be with people you trust and really know if your leaving your child alone with them.
*The guidelines for parenting should be surrounded around loving obedience, humor, respect (don't belittle your children), and patience. Of course every situation is differrent but they should somehow relate to this.

Interviews:

Number 1
Yazmin: How many siblings do you have?
Binta: 3.

Yazmin: And what would you say your relationship is like?
Binta: Really close. We eat each other's buttholes.

Yazmin: Do you think loving your sisters is mandatory?
Binta: I don't think you really have to love anyone in your family but you have to have mutual respect. You do grow up loving them however.

Yazmin: What do you think about sibling rivalry?
Binta: Happens a lot more than people realize. A lot of sibling rivalry because mom compared me to her. Resented her for the way mom idolized her.

Binta has a close relationship to her siblings now but when she was younger she wasn't as close to them because her mother would compare them. Loving her sisters doesn't feel mandatory to her because she loves them regardless. The mutual respect she talks about is understanding that even though your family and you should love each other it doesn't mean you have to always see eye to eye. This kind of makes my thesis right because she also says you grow up loving them which is why people think you HAVE to love them.

Number 2
Yazmin: Are you the eldest out of your siblings?
Jace: Yes. I have 1 younger brother.

Yazmin: Do you think your brother looks up to you?
Jace: Yes because I am a good role model. Girls like me, good at sports, smart, I fucks wit Yazmin, and she fucks wit me.

Yazmin: Do you think your brother looks up to you because he has no one else?
Jace: No

Yazmin: Do you think its mandatory to love your siblings?
Jace: It's not mandatory but its natural. It's unavoidable.

Being the eldest you usually have the responsibility of being the role model. By being the role model your siblings automatically look up to you which makes them love you. Jace says that loving your siblings is not mandatory its only natural. This goes back to the same thing Binta says that you grow up loving them.

Number 3
Yazmin: Do you think its mandatory to love your family?
Jacara: Yes.

Yazmin: Why?
Jacara: Because logic tells you that those are the first people in your life and they tell you that those are the ones that are going to be around.

Yazmin: What do you think about sibling rivalry?
Jacara: I'm older than you so I win.

Jacara hits my thesis right on the dot by saying that your family tells you that they are the only ones that are going to be there for you. I think they trick you into thinking this because I have friends who have been there for me more often then my family. By making you think this thy make you believe you have to love them because they are the only ones you can depend on.

Number 4
Yazmin: How do you feel about being a lonely child?
Katherine: I'm glad to be an only child.

Yazmin: What do you think about those stories of siblings who don't talk to one another?
Katherine: I think its sad because you have a blood connection with each other and it doesn't seem to work out. Like what do you when you can't relate to your own family? Its easier for my mom to just focus on me.

Yazmin: Do you think its mandatory to love your family?
Katherine: I think it is.

Yazmin: Do you think that's because society looks at you bad if you don't love them?
Katherine: Yes.

Being an only child Katherine still understands the connection between siblings and thinks it is upsetting when they do not get along. She also agrees that loving family members is mandatory because if not society looks down on you.

Question:
Do you think loving your family is mandatory?

Familia

Question
Is it mandatory to love your family?

Research
McEntire, Tereasa. "Why Families Should Eat Dinner Together." families.com August 25, 2006: 1. Web. 15 May 2010. .

Families that eat together usually do more because its mandatory not because they want too. This is a magazine article for parenting advice. The author discusses why you should eat dinner together and some reasons why people dn't. Something interesting I read was that she said "children get older and the number of activities they are involved in increases the meals eaten as a family decrease". I thought this was extremely interesting to look at it this way. This is true of course. I know if I come home later than 7, my family usually eats without me.

"Sibling Rivalry." Wikipedia. N.p., May 1, 2010. Web. 15 May 2010. .

This is just about sibling rivalry and describing what it is. They say siblings are usually closer to each other than their parents. Just wanted to check this out before googling more on sibling rivalry.

Ward, Bill. "When to stay together for the children--or not." StarTribune.com February 28, 2010: 1. Web. 15 May 2010. .

This article uses a very familiar saying as an intrduction just tweeked a tad. "Take one for the teens." This caught my attention almost immediately. It says that parents who are "low conflict" whatever that means are advised to stay together for the kids. This to me is very odd because if you are unhappy its not good for anyone in the situation. It also says that kids from divorced parents are 50% more likely to get a divorce than others. That's VERY high.

Vanderlinden, C.M. "How to love your family--even if you don't like them." Hubpages. N.p., n.d. Web. 15 May 2010. .

This website is funny and can help you if you don't like someone in your family. It tells you way to overcome that feeling of not liking them and stuff.

P.S. This is really bad. I think I need to look this stuff up in books because I couldn't find anything like percentages and stuff of what I wanted.

Bullshit Survey

ENFP - "Journalist". Uncanny sense of the motivations of others. Life is an exciting drama. 8.1% of total population.

Free Jung Personality Test (similar to Myers-Briggs/MBTI)

This is not me at all. I don't think this test is accurate. Life is an "exciting drama" for everyone not just me. The results were not useful at all.

Ayoo

Taking that survey was a little weird. The questions were normal but the fact that we had to take it for a class was what made it so weird. Then again Andys class has never been normal. Even though surveys are meant to be random at first I was still trying to monitor what I wrote because again it was for a class. But then I just changed my mind and wrote what I really thought.

The results are actually pretty funny and not that surprising except for some. It seems to me that people took it very seriously.

That other survey is different because it's professionally done and the real statistics. Which is kind of scary. Anywho they did New York City as a whole. We only have SOF students and what we do. And maybe some students like I did at first didn't answer the questions honestly. These numbers are legit.

You + Me = Us In Some Sort Of Relationship

Human relationships vary. They come in different attitudes, forms, and sizes. They can be emotional, physical, or mandatory. Either way there is relationships between almost all humans that come in contact with each other on normal basis. Whether its the guy you see in the subway on your way to school everyday or your mom. Relationships are all different based on the specific people but they have the same basic rules (although not all of them may follow them). There is the rule of communication (eye contact counts), respect (again not all follow this rule), understanding of relationship (can be misunderstood), and overall the need for humans to talk, vent, pleasure, and love.

Family relationships
In my opinion family relationships are all mandatory. In most cases people tend to not mind that there family relationships are mandatory because they have good family relationships but there are those cases where even if you go far away from them and vow to never see them again there is a relationship between you. Between families, relationships can at times be strained because people may not see eye to eye on a situation but close families can always overcome this dispute and move on. Communication in a family can be tough and there is usually one person who makes mostly all the decisions even though parents try to act like its a joint decision. There also must be respect in a family although rarely do people give each other the respect they deserve. Understanding the relationship should be a given (though people have been known to become confused). If its your mother, brother, sister, father, uncle, aunt, grandpa, granddaughter, second cousin I don't care you should NOT be having sex with them. Now that I got that out I think that while people have families to satisfy their need to love and stuff, I also think that people have families because what else is there to do? Once you finished college and have got a good job, what do you do on your spare time? The answer is you make babies duhhhhhh.

Student/teacher relationships
This one is a very delicate and tedious one. Both parties have to be willing to work together in order to achieve anything. While it is mandatory it can also be very rewarding and helpful. There are teachers who could serve as mentors and do really care about the students. Communication is very important in this relationship so that both parties can get through to each other. Respect is also key because no teacher is going to help you if they think you don't respect them because they are suppose to be superior to us. Understanding of relationship is also very important because teacher/student relationships are inappropriate. The need for humans to talk is fulfilled when teachers blab about their lessons for the whole clas period (sound familiar Andy?). Good teachers can also be loved by their student because they really helped them during the time they knew them.

Work relationships
Work relationships should be formal and polite but not taken outside of "the office". (I'm speaking from first hand experience). Though you may get along with one or two coworkers very well you should try your best to keep it seperate from your personal life. This is because if things go bad in a work relationship that you took out of work it can affect where you work. Communication is also important especially when your working together with a coworker or boss. One miscommunication can really hurt whatever project or task your working on.

Consumer/producer relationships
The consumer's job is to buy, buy, buy while the producer's job is to make, make, make. They have an indirect relationship because the producer makes based off of what the consumer's usually buy they just try to improve it everytime they make it. Consumers show producers what they are interested in by what they buy and what they do not.

Stranger relationships
STRANGER DANGERRRRRR!!!!!! Strangers can be scary but they are also the people we talk to at the supermarket or while getting lunch. Let's face it, there are tons of people we don't know everywhere. Our relationships with them are mostly formal and on a mandatory basis.

Some relationships but not all. That would take forever and a day.

Some Other Video B/C IRRESPONSIBLE PEOPLE Messed Up Ours

Sigh. I was the director of our film and though I was no Spielberg I think I did a pretty good job. We'll never know our end result because the tape was "ruined". So all that hardwork is now nothing.

Esther's film about the teacher giving up hope on himself is kind of depressing. I totally understand where they were going with it though. The message to me seemed kind of lost and in my opinion not clearly stated (sorry). I liked the idea of him reminiscing on how his class used to be but I didn't see any other message other than desperation. Which might have been the message.

This is different than the movies we watched in class because this teacher actually gave up. All the other teachers keep going until they reach a break through but this one was so lost in his own sorrow and misery that he just couldn't do it. I also think the students kind of gave up on the teacher because in ours it was also about a teacher lost but the students brought him back up and helped him out. In this one when the teacher walks out the students just let him.

Salvation is the act of protecting from harm or danger. Education is an act that has an affect on the mind. These two don't seem to have the same meaning but surprisingly they can be blended together in a teacher's mind. To educate someone is to teach them things that will in turn help them towards a better future. While giving them a better future because of what they learn you are saving them from a doomed life of poverty and misery. Depending on how good the student ends up is how well you saved them.

Someone and Then Another

Gatto:
The reading I did for this was "6 Lessons". This reading was telling us about the basics of teaching in all education. Lesson 1 is that kids are purposely put in certain classes and should therefore stay in those classes. Lesson 2 is to know when to be hard workers yet to be able to move from one material to the next with ease. Lesson 3 is to give up your basic powers as a human to the authorative figure aka teacher. The fourth lesson is that the teacher has all the power in a classroom going from curriculum to disciplinary actions. Lesson 5 is to put all of your everything into receiving the approval of your teacher. You should go to all cost to impress them and revolve your existence around their opinion of you. The last lesson is that you are under survelliance by your teacher at all times. Whether its through other children or homework, they can see and control what you do and learn.

These lessons are completely accurate when it comes to what teachers are suppose to teach the students before any of the work and even during their teaching. These lessons make for cooperative and conformed children who will bend over to do anything for their teacher. This however is bullshit because students shoudl have power in the classroom as well. I'm not talking about total control but we should be able to have some say in what we learn and/or how the teacher teaches it. Not all children learn the same so for some these mind games don't work as well as others.

Freire:
This article was about how teachers are just people to fill up students heads with things that use to mean something and now mean nothing because they are not taught with meaning to us. Teachers put things into our minds and we are expected to remember it all. My favorite quote from the text is "The more completely she fills the receptacles, the better a teacher she is. The more meekly the receptacles permit themselves to be filled, the better students they are." This quote is saying that the more we know the better the teacher is considered. The more we let ourselves be taught without a fight or word the better students we are considered.

This quote to me seems very true because teachers are looked and judged upon the amount their students learn and the grades they get. This however should not be how a person is judged because students can gain more from a teacher than just school knowledge. The fact that students are also judged upon how obediently they learn is also a problem. Students shoudl not have to bow to a "higher power" to learn. Everyone in a classroom setting should be equal because not only are the kids there to learn but so are the teachers.

Delpit:
The interview with Dr. Delpit discussed equal oppurtunity for low income children. She says that you can do this but teachers cannot undermine the student's intelligence. They must believe in the child in order for them to achieve. She also discussed how the arts can be a way to teach children more about school. It keeps them more interested and they relate to it more while they are also being taught about music or writing.

I agree with Dr. Delpit because if a teacher does not believe in the student the kids think that there is no reason to even try. Children need people to back them up in order to achieve wonders. I also agree with arts being another way to teach children basic lessons. For me especially I have always been more interested in music and poetry more than math and science. Incorporating these things into basic school curriculum would definitely interest me more and make me want to learn because I can relate to it. I think what she says about it being mostly children of color or African descent is wrong but hey whatever she wants to believe.

Fanning:
Mr. Fanning talked about the difference between SOF and other schools. He gave it a lot more credit than needed but I guess that's what he has to do. He taught us about the difference between liberal arts and standard education. He said SOF is more about indivuality within teamwork and that the teachers are there to help us with our own thoughts and ideas not just to teach us by books what other people say.

I definitely agree with this about SOF. Whether I think it works or not is different. I think to be at SOF you have to have reached a certain level of maturity. A level that not all of SOF students have reached and even I myself sometimes forget that I have. If you have that level of maturity SOF can be a great advantage because it is about indivuality and a lot more lenient than other schools. Without that maturity however it is just a school that you can bullshit through while getting away with whatever you want.

3 TO 20 PARAGRAPHSSS

So this whole movie thing, I have no clue how we are going to pull it off in all one day when we don't even have a set plan but I'm hoping for the best. My idea was kind of just to have us be ourselves because I didn't want the kids to be like horrible children or goody goods either and I think we're right in the middle of all that. My opinion though. So ummm here goes our movie in my head:

First day of school:
Kids are all in the halls as teacher is walking to class. Everyone is really excited to see each other. Being loud and lots of commotion. Kids are pointing and talking about teacher. Teacher sets up classroom nicely with syllabus on desk for every student and a piece of construction paper. Ten minutes later still waiting for kids. They finally start coming in still loud and disruptive. Jumping around. Teacher ignores the fact that they're late. Asks everyone to sit down and write their names on the construction paper to make little name tags. Everyone starts laughing and immediately writes a bullshit name. More kids walk in late after that with their headphones blasting and sit in the back. Teacher asks them to turn down the music and what their names are. Roll of the eyes and a loud sigh of frustration from the kids. Teacher tries to introduce himself, kids purposely act like they don't understand. Name tags say ridiculous names. Bell rings. Everyone gets up and leaves while teacher is still speaking.

Second day of school:
Teacher is a little more prepared. Got an attendance sheet that has the real names. Calls out attendance. Begins to go over syllabus that of course everyone left yesterday. Students are speaking to one another. One student gets up and begins to leave. Teacher asks where they are going. Bathroom response. Teacher says they have to ask. Kid laughs and leaves anyways. Everyone laughs even harder at this and joke on teacher. Teacher is in shock and disbelief. Bell rings. Class leaves.

Third week of school:
Disruptiveness and disrespect continue. Teacher finally gets fed up and starts talking about something interesting to kids. They have a great conversation about whatever topic this is. Bell rings. Students wait until he finishes his sentence. They say bye to him as they leave. Teacher has a revelation.

Next day:
Classroom is reorganized into just chairs in the shape of a circle and they have a discussion the whole class about what they would like to learn in that class. Kids are really into it. Teacher is happy and part of the jokes not the recipient of them.

Ok so this might suck but it's the kind of the type of movie I want to do so at least use one part of my them or whatever this is called in the real movie. Like the rearrangement of the classroom. I think that one is really smart : )

That Bookie

The book I chose to read is "The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time' by Mark Haddon. This book is about a young autistic child who tries to solve the mystery of a dog's death. By investigating this he finds out certain secrets that unravel themselves to be more than he can handle at times. Although the boy faces certain challenges and dilemas he overcomes what most would think is not possible for a child with disabilities. With the help of his neighbor, his determination to find his mom, and his fear of his father this young boy finds a new home and happiness again.

This book relates to my topic because my topic is about children with learning disabilities. With this book I saw the world through the eyes of a child with a learning disorder and learned about the struggles and challenges they face on a day to day basis. Now don't get me wrong this young boy was very smart when it came to his academics but you could still see that he struggled especially when he was having what he calls a "bad day".

This book has helped me better understand the thoughts of those with autism and how it can affect them it not just school but also the outside world (the story was not just about school but slso him being out in the world by himself). He was very good at school and wanted to take an exam for further placement. The book also showed me how the disability could get in the way with the simplest of tasks such as using the bathroom. The author talked about how the character saw other people in his school and what he felt about them. All in all it's a very good book.